Tuesday of the 30th Week of Ordinary Time
October 27, 2020
In any case, each one of you should love his wife as himself,
and the wife should respect her husband.
If we sum up St.Paul’s letter to Ephesians about Marriage or Husband and Wife, we can interpret this verse as giving or losing ourselves for each other. This is the basic and fundamental meaning of Marriage in the Bible. We see many Couples live for each other bearing each others burdens , some willingly and others in grumbling and in great pain. Marriage is a Vocation of love and service, if we miss these two fruits in our life,it will be very difficult to sustain Marriage in a Christian values.
The definition of Christian Marriage is dying for each other or bearing each others Cross. This is the real and deeper meaning of Christian love. This is the same love Jesus bore on the Cross for the People of this World and entered in to relationship with his People. This shows that Marriage is a relationship. When two individuals spend life time together by communicating with each other , a trust builds among the Couple and this trust establishes a bond of love.
To build selfless bond of love , human requires God’s help because human may live together for various reasons like Prosperity, Name , Fame , Education, Intelligence, success, Children, house, Money, Business so on but all these are not main goal of Marriage but resources required in the Marriage. Marriage’s main goal is to live in selfless love. In the Sacrament of Matrimony a Couple gets an anointing of the selfless love of God the Holy spirit who becomes a third partner in the Marriage.
People may lead marriage without the anointing or a ritual of Church Marriage not seeking the help of the Holy-spirit each day in their life, these marriages are laborious and no happiness in these families but just live like sophisticated Social Animals eating ,drinking , Working, Buying and selling and gathering and dying like any other Animal on this Earth.
The real Marriages can not be lived without the help of the Holy-spirit. This is the reason we need Prayer a way of communication with God and one to one Communication with each other, both are very important in the Christian Marriage. We see the Marriages of other Faith , Christian Couples are different than the other faith couples because we do not live for ourselves but for each other in selfless God’s love the holy spirit as the center of our Marriage. Loving each other does not mean making an idol of each other but making God as an idol of the Marriage and living according to the teachings of Gods love.
Marriages are backbone and foundations of this Earth. A broken marriage can break the whole World from generations to generations unless they embrace Jesus Christ who makes all things new. Adam and Eve were created to live in Gods love but corruption came in to their mind in the form of Pride and they broke first the relationship with God and with each other. The doubt, Suspicion, Passion , Shame and guilt entered in their holy relationship of marriage and God was completely missing in their relationship and they started hiding from God by living in the absence of Gods presence in their lives.
When we do not have relationship with God or have a good personal Prayer , it is impossible to live a Christian Marriage. We live with each other and make Children and become successful but the relationship with God and selfless love with Each other is completely missing in our lives. We see couples married for 50 years still grumbling, criticizing, Complaining, grouping, doubting, gossiping in the family shows that they do not live a Christian Marriage.
The Sacrament of Marriage must make the Couple Holy in every day of their life and they can achieve this only through Prayer and giving to each other.The virtue of every sacrament to make the person Holy and if a Sacrament of Marriage do not make a Couple Holy in their whole life span, then they have evaluate their life where they have gone wrong in their life.
The Prosperity, Children , Success does not contribute to Holiness because this is not the goal of our Vocation. Our judgement does not depend upon the Success of our Family but only on Holiness. If we are Holy we become good examples to our Children , Neighbors and make a difference in the World by representing and becoming instruments of Gods love.
Prayer : Lord anoint us with your love.Amen.